To the Red Haired Girl at the Splash Pad

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I saw you with your frizzy red pigtails, freckled face and your soaking wet yellow dress.  I saw you watching my daughter.  I saw you sitting near her, not too close, but close enough to watch her expression as she concentrated on watching the buckets fill with water and then pour down.  Most kids would be standing under that water.  Mine likes to watch from a distance.  I saw you smile at her.  And then I saw you look up at me.

You walked to me, shivering in the air, soaking wet.  And you smiled this beautiful, crooked smile with your front teeth missing.  I smiled back.  And you sat next to me and watched my daughter again.  Here is where I brace myself as a mom.

My daughter has Down Syndrome.  She’s non verbal and has some autistic tendencies.  She doesn’t know how to relate to other kids, sometimes doesn’t…

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May Style Club Challenge

Can you guess my favorite

Last month the style club challenges were focused on “hiding your belly”. I did not participate in all of the challenges, because there was just so much going on. I am hoping to be much more active for May. This months theme is: Accessories Essentials.  So we will be focusing on accessories and week one was necklaces and choosing the perfect necklace for your outfit. The challenge for this week was to wear an outfit and elevate the look with a necklace.

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For the week one exercise, I actually managed to wrap three separate challenges into one; necklace, hat, and bag, without even realizing it until I had already taken photographs, you may see a lot of the same photos this go round, lol! I will try to focus on just the necklaces today though. Here I used a statement necklace, along with other accessories to step up a simple sleeveless top and jeans. The black jeans you’ve seen before, they are just good ole’ Levis, the top is a couple of years old and I’m not really sure where I got it, but it wasn’t anywhere special. It may have been Sam’s Club, but I’m not 100% sure, and the bag came from HSN. It is part of the Joy/Iman collection. I bought it for the color and it has great pockets, but I’m not sure about keeping it. The hat came from a local shop last year.

This look was part of yesterdays post and if you haven’t read it you can do so here. This necklace is bold enough that it works with the V neck of the blouse. It is often recommended to wear a V-shaped necklace to fill in the decolletage area on a V neck, but this was low enough and the design worked.

The accessories elevated this simple look, but did not over power it. What do you think?

In the outfit below I changed up the jewelry and shoes to change to over all feel of the outfit. The clothes are the same. With a scoop neck top a bib type necklace works well for filling in the void. The floating heart bib on the right with matching earrings does just that and by wearing the wedges with the crops it dresses the casualness of the outfit up.

I changed the necklace and shoes for the photo on the left, to give an overall more casual feel to the same clothes. By adding the longer necklace it adds vertical length and visual interest to the look and brings in the rule of thirds.

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The jewelry is all from Plunder. The floating heart set is from the Valentines specials and is no longer available. The Ezra bangle and the long beautiful pearl strand is from the spring catalog. It is 62 inches of pearls on leather! You know I just had to have it. You can see the entire line by clicking here. It will take you to the party link for May. If you have any problems with that or any of the links;  please let me know.

What do you think of these looks? Which one of these looks do you like best? Can you guess which on is my favorite? I am certainly no fashion icon. I am just a simple girl trying to learn and find what works for me and share it with you. I hope you find some useful ideas and things you like.

The blog reached 50 subscribers yesterday!!! Woo Hoo!!!! The social media sites are growing faster, but the blog itself is starting to catch up!! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, for liking, commenting and sharing. That is what helps to get the word out! I appreciate all that you do to help with that! If you haven’t already signed up to follow the blog or to receive an email when there’s a new post, you can do so by clicking the FOLLOW button at the bottom of your screen. Easy Peasy, and you will only get an email when there is a new post. Remember you can also follow and share on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and now on Bloglovin.

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Janet
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Baltimore FlowerMart

Baltimore is a city that is rich in history and culture

Saturday “The Man” and I headed out to the annual Baltimore FlowerMart (current spelling) in the Mt. Vernon area of the city. It is held around the Washington Monument.


It is quite an event and has been held here every year since 1911. It was the first Flower Mart (original spelling) in the nation. If you would like to learn more about FlowerMart and the history you can do so here. The FlowerMart is held the first weekend of May, rain or shine. It is held the weekend of the Kentucky Derby. It kicks off on Friday and goes through the weekend. I consider it Baltimore’s kickoff to the Preakness Stakes which is held here two weeks after the derby. I don’t know if that’s official, but I like the thought. If you are a horse racing fan, you know Preakness is the second leg in the run for the Triple Crown.

I have never been to the Preakness or any other horse race for that matter, but I do enjoy watching and participating in some of the festivities.

There is a grand hat parade at the kickoff on Friday, vendors of all types, flowers and plants (of course), and even a dog parade. Maybe one year I can participate in the hat parade! How fun would that be?

The photo was of above was a lovely display by the For-Win-Ash Garden Club, which is part of the Baltimore City Garden Clubs and a member of The Federated Garden Clubs Of Maryland; you can learn more about them here. As you would walk in the proprietress would say “come in and sip and sit”. Very charming.  I just loved the idea of the plants in teapots and cups. I did the plants a favor and left them there for someone who might be able to keep them alive after taking them home. It is a running joke around here if you want a plant to die, give it to me… I must say though, last year my son and his girlfriend gave me an orchid for Mother’s Day and the plant is still alive. It has been in my house for one year yesterday and isn’t dead yet. There was a bet going on as to how long it would live. It hasn’t bloomed again, but it is alive…..Maybe there is hope, but I wouldn’t put money on it, lol!

One of the vendors
A local artist/vendor selling planters and lawn art

Some of the beautiful artwork on display.

Birdbaths made from glass

Since I discovered hats last year I decided to wear one down, even though it wasn’t Friday. I knew there would still be some in attendance; because it’s tradition.


It became very windy at times so hanging onto my hat was a challenge.


I bought this hat towards the end of last summer. I knew it would look good with black and white. It adds just a bit of a pop of color. I don’t usually wear hats with a brim this wide, but I don’t think it is too much. It also has a built-in SPF so it will be good in the summer. I recently purchased the green purse. Since “greenery” is the color of spring and I don’t have much green. I decided to add it with accessories instead of buying new clothes. The boots and black jeans you’ve seen before. These boots have a nice block heel and were very comfortable walking on the brick lined streets. I have found good quality heels to be much more comfortable than most flats, since losing weight. The white top is a couple of years old. Of course I had to add some pearls. After all, “pearls are always appropriate”; to quote Jackie Kennedy.

The lemon and peppermint stick is a FlowerMart tradition and a must have.

I have told you before I am the person that should not wear white on any day that ends in “Y” and this day was no exception. By the time we were done I had dripped lemon juice with red peppermint stains down my shirt….SMH, lol. Fortunately, since we knew the temperature was supposed to start dropping and it was supposed to rain off and on I took a jacket. At least I didn’t look like a total slob the rest of the day.

More of the beautiful flowers for sale

We really enjoy going into the city and partaking in the various activities throughout the year. Baltimore is a city that is rich in history and culture. There is so much to see and do that you rarely need to leave. Some days I just enjoy walking around and looking at the old architecture. Do you enjoy these types of activities? If you are local have you been to FlowerMart?

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Janet

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Change of Mindset

a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do

Thursday “The Man” and I had our annual physical exams. The doctor that we have seen for the past few years has left the practice so we saw someone new. Since my weight has been up a little this month, it was of course up there too. This new person I saw, actually a nurse practitioner, told me I didn’t need to lose anymore weight (which overall I agree with) or lose the couple of pounds to get back to where I was. Is it time to change my way of thinking? Have I been too fixated on a number?

Saturday morning I headed off to the meeting of the #saturday7amsocialclub AKA Weight Watchers. Since this was the first meeting of May I had to weigh in to establish my free lifetime status for the month.  As expected I was up a couple of pounds from my April weigh in. However, when I looked back, I was actually a bit less than I was in May of 2016 when I was carb loading for running the five half marathons in five weeks. So at the end of the day, I guess, I am ok. Last year I had planned that I would be up for the weigh in but I still had a hard time with it mentally. I don’t think you can work hard to lose weight and not be upset with an up number, even if you know why. If there is a solution for that; please let me in on it!

After the meeting I headed off to my session with, my trainer, Jeff. We talked about my “gain”. Jeff is still pretty sure this gain is from adding muscle weight and not a “real” weight gain. He said “there is no way to lift like I have been, fuel properly, and not gain weight”. These are things that I know in my mind. But I’m still not completely convinced that this is where this gain is from; even though I know I have stayed with in my WW points; I also know that I have not always eaten the best food choices the past month.

So I will continue to track my food intake on the WW app, as usual, but I am also going to use the “old fashioned” way and put pen to paper. That way I can just glance back through and see what I did. I will also be tracking my exercise and weight lifting 🏋 more than I have been.

In 2016 WW came out with the “beyond the scale” campaign. The idea behind it is to focus on the whole you not just the number on the scale. That is easier said than done especially when you are trying to lose weight. I will try. Since my goal isn’t to lose, I must now shift my thinking. I just know that I have to keep working the plan and working my training.

I will get my head wrapped around it and make this work.

After my “mental health” session and some warm up, it was time to get to work. Last week I told you I was going to start working with Jeff twice a week instead of once. This was the first week for that. I will now be working with him in Wednesday and Saturday😳! Whose idea was this? What was I thinking? Lol! Wednesday was arm day so Saturday was leg day….squats, squats, and more squats, lol! We kept the weight low and just did a lot of reps! The video below is the last set at the highest  weight we used; 85lbs. I had already done 5 sets of 5 at this weight. This one was to go as many as I could. Jeff stopped me at 12; I was going for 15!

​I need to work on getting down a hair lower on these squats. It’s amazing, and mind boggling just how much stuff you need to do/remember to get everything right. Much of it of course is to help prevent injury. No one has ever accused me of being overly coordinated so remembering to put it all together and execute it is a challenge in itself. Picking up heavy stuff is the easy part, hahaha.

I teased Jeff that I was still able to walk around town in heels after leg day. He said he didn’t do his job then….I got up Sunday morning and thought I was going to die, ok not quite, but I could sure feel it! (DOMs) delayed onset muscle soreness is a real thing!!!! I was still able to wear heels though…a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do!

How are things going for you? Have you experienced weight gains from building muscle after losing weight? How have you reconciled it in your head? Did you find it easy or hard? Do you have any thoughts, tips, or ideas? I’d love to hear from you.

I will, of course, keep you updated.

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Janet

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Pulling Your Head Out Of Your Backside

What do you do to pull yourself out of a slump

 

How do you do it? My head, heart, and body are not in sync. Which has been in evidence this past month. Why? I don’t rightly know. I have been trying for the past couple of months to figure it out. The closest I’ve come to any idea is: that I have, finally,  allowed the life changing events that started last summer steer me off course.

I will go to the #saturday7amsocialclub tomorrow morning and I will have to weigh in to establish my free lifetime status for May. I will do that, but I will be up a few pounds from April’s weigh in. Why? I’m not completely sure. I haven’t tracked well this month, but I know I haven’t gone off the deep end with junk either. I don’t know why I haven’t tracked well. Is it just one more thing to do? Could I be starting to gain muscle mass from the heavy lifting? Jeff, said that I would eventually. Maybe, but I don’t think that is it. At least not completely.

I just have to BELIEVE that it will all balance out.

My New Training Journal

I also feel like I’ve lost my source(s) of support. I started this journey over three years ago. At that time I was not in it alone. I had a WW buddy, a workout buddy, and running buddies. That changed last summer. I was determined not to let those changes affect me. But I am fearing they are. Slowly I have let them. I have thrown myself a “Pity Party”.

This says it all

Now it is up to me to say “enough is enough” and figure out how to snap out of it. This has always been a marathon, not a sprint. So at this point I have decided to think of it in race terms. I have “hit the wall” around mile 20. Now I have to dig deep and power through to get to the finish line. The only difference is; there is no finish line.

I have done this before, on my own. So why should this be any different?

Technically I still have a meeting room full of WW buddies and I treasure them; I know that I can message any of them at anytime, but it’s not the same. I guess you could call my trainer, Jeff, a workout buddy; but I pay him (to torture me) so I’m not sure that counts, lol! Truth be told if it weren’t for my meetings and workouts with Jeff, I would have likely given up long ago.

Last night I went to my Thursday night yoga class. It has been quite a while since I was last at that class. Ironically, Dave, the instructor said something about how it was much easier and better to practice in a group vs alone at home. This is so true. I try to practice yoga at home, but don’t get very far. The energy is so different in the studio. That’s how I have been feeling in general, I guess, over this portion of my journey. It was much easier, better, and enjoyable with the buddy system.

I must pull my head out of my rumpus if I plan to run a marathon, that’s for sure. And I am determined to do that.

I have started by getting a new training journal and looking at a training plan. I told you I have increased my sessions with Jeff (they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger). We will see about that!

I have been trying to be a long distance buddy for a friend who’s on her own journey. I’m not sure I have been a very good buddy for her. I hope I can do better.

What do you do to pull yourself out of slump? Do you like “going it alone” or having a partner? Have you been in this same boat? If so, how have you handled it? Let me know your thoughts. If you have any suggestions; throw them at me!

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Janet

Weekend Warrior

Or just plain crazy

Saturday’s workout with my trainer, Jeff, was nothing short of amazing? Crazy? Awesome? It was good. We worked on some serious lifting. I am surprised I could move the next day, lol.

We worked on squats, dead lifting, and bench pressing. All in one day; which is unusual. Like I told you last week, that bench press is going to need A LOT of work, but I’m sure it will get better. I did set new PR’s for squats and the dead lift. Just to see what I could do Jeff jumped my squat weight from 105-135 pounds! I told you I think he’s trying to do me in, lol. Jeff didn’t get a picture of that; he wanted to make sure to spot me incase I couldn’t do it.

We then moved on to the bench press. Now I told you I was weak in that, but, I can press just the bar pretty good…all 45 pounds of it, lol! We tried adding 20 pounds to it and it wasn’t very pretty….so we took it down to 55 and I managed to get it fairly decent. I most certainly have a lot of work to do.

After that we moved on over to the dead lift. I’m not sure, but I might enjoy that; just a little bit….We went through a few lifts of “lite” weight. Then moved on up. After a few lifts I had to visit the facilities (nothing new there) and when I came back Jeff had racked on some new weights. I wasn’t exactly sure of what the amount was, but I knew it was more than I had ever done. I approached and tried, but just couldn’t pull it. It was 175 pounds. We took off 10 and I went to lift it for one pull! Jeff, did manage to get a video. I think it is much better than last weeks over all.


I’m still not sure why last weeks was so “sloppy” on such lite weight. I still think it was in part to being “finished” then going back to doing a quick round for videoing. I guess it still remains to be seen. If you missed last weeks post and video you can see it here. Let me know what you think.​

If this craziness with Jeff isn’t enough; I have decided to go from training once a week with him to twice a week….so I will now work Jeff on Saturday and Wednesday Nights; is this smart or just plain crazy? I guess we will see. I must be a glutton for punishment!

Sunday morning, I got up and ran. It was the first time in a couple of weeks. It was the first time in a very long time, I felt good about it. I didn’t run fast (ok, really, do I ever) but it wasn’t my slowest either. I didn’t run far, but farther than the last time.

When I got up Sunday morning I was going determined I was going to get out and run. I did. I must admit, I have had a hard time getting motivated to start training for the marathon. Why I just don’t know, but I have not been able to get my head around it. Maybe because it is so far out, which is true, but I need to build up my base. I cannot do that sitting on my rear end. Maybe this is going to be my last running hurrah? I don’t know. I am still in a bit of a funk and I need something to pull me out.

As I got ready to go on Sunday, something felt different. I fueled, I got dressed and as I was getting things together; I felt almost giddy with excitement. Have I turned the corner? I don’t know, but I started thinking about when I was going to run again, getting out my training book to start logging workouts (then decided I needed a new book for a new year; Hello Amazon!). I ordered it and it should be here today!! Yay! It is the little things…

It was very overcast, but it was humid. I sweated. In a tank top. I never sweat. It was kind of nice. Maybe. Just. Maybe. “I’m gonna make it after all”….

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Janet

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Going Grey Gracefully-To Color or Not To Color

I think my stylist thinks I’m cuckoo

Do you color your hair? Have you accepted going grey gracefully, or are you fighting it til the end? There is no right or wrong answer for it is most certainly a personal and individual choice. But what are your thoughts on coloring your hair?

I found my first grey hair in Feb 1995, oh yes, I remember it vividly. I was 31 years old, and there it was; right up front! I was mortified. I was too young, lol. I called my aunt to tell her…I did not run straight out to buy hair color though. I analyzed it. Yes, that’s right, I studied that bugger for days. I decided it was that pretty white/silvery color and wouldn’t be so bad if they were all that way. Of course there is no way to know with just one grey hair what the rest will be like, and 22 years later I still don’t know!

I decided I didn’t want to color my hair and although I have gone through phases of coloring since. I have not colored my hair to hide the grey. I developed some notion that coloring it would cause it to be an ugly shade of grey and shied away from it. If I must have grey hair, I want pretty grey. I think my stylist thinks I’m cuckoo. After several years, though, I started coloring it on occasion to have a different color. I only colored now and again just for a change. I found I really have no patience for touching up roots every few weeks. I’m a let it grow out and then color the entire head kind of person. I guess that’s ok, but it can look pretty bad; depending on what color you went with. Heck, I don’t even like going for a trim with any regularity. Well, that’s not entirely true. I don’t think far enough in advance to make an appointment with any regularity. I think about needing to go, but take forever to call and get in…..

Both of my grandmothers had beautiful white hair and that’s what I am hoping for. That’s not too much to ask for, is it?

I also found that no matter what color I used (shade or brand) I always ended up with red hair or a red tint for a couple of weeks after. I used one particular brand once, and went with an auburn shade (I figured if it was going to look red why not). It turned out almost neon red! My neighbors across the street didn’t think it was me! They thought “The Man” had moved someone new in!!! You can be sure I never used that brand again!

This picture is one of the last times I colored my hair; a couple of weeks before my sons wedding almost two years ago. As you can see it still looks fairly red on the day of the wedding.

This was not quite a year ago as the color from my last coloring was growing out. If I could have this shade from day one until time to color again; I might color it again. I don’t think there are any guarantees!

And this is now. My own au natural hair. I realized when I looked at this picture I have my own unique color, It is called “tree bark”! Go on in and ask your stylist for this color…

As you can see there is quite a bit of “snow on the mountian top”. Now if only it would just “do its thing” and turn; I would be happy. Or would I? I considered coloring it all grey once (that seems to be quite the rage). I figured that would be a way of knowing what it would look like and if I would like it. I went so far as to talk to my stylist about it. When she told me I would have to bleach all my color out and then color it. I gave that notion up real fast!!! Mother Nature can just take over.

I have a true love/hate relationship with my hair. I go in for a trim and like it for about ten minutes after leave, then it drives me bonkers for a few weeks before I like it again, then it’s time to repeat…..Someone once said I should find a new stylist. I have tried that. I haven’t found one that I like any better than the one I have used for years. If you are local and have any recommendations; I am open. Let me know who you use. Tell me your thoughts. Do you color? Have you recently stopped coloring? Are you going to go down in a blaze of coloring glory? I would love to hear from you and what you think.

Last week was a slow writing week, here on the blog. To say I was preoccupied with all the goings on with Miss Caterina is an understatement. The week certainly did not go the way I had envisioned it. For those who don’t already know you can read about it on last Mondays blog post; http://www.grandma2glamma.com/things-dont-always-go-as-planned if you do know what was going on, Miss Caterina came home Wednesday and seems to be doing very well! Thank you, everyone, for the prayers and good thoughts.

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Janet